Well i got the transmission flushed. he said it was pretty bad. he is convinced the filters had never been changed

. it shifts a little softer now.
i also had the timing belt, tensioner, camshaft seals, water pump, and thermostat replaced. good timing too.. the mechanic showed me the old belt and the teeth were just flaking off of it... after i did this it shifts a little better still but it still lurches when changing gears at slow speeds under low acceleration.
also, is it normal for the new timing belt to whine a little? i am told its because its still breaking in sorta... either that or its the tensioner.
now all i have to do to this monster is replace the plugs, wires, cap and rotor.